[CI] dial back renovate frequency, enable automerge. disable CAPI/CAPL dep updates

[AshleyDumaine]

Automerge is enabled on this repo so this PR lets renovate make use of that for anything that's not a major version update which we'll very likely want to manually verify ourselves.

Tests passing and 1 approval are already required for a merge to happen, enabling automerge just requires one less click to merge once approved and tests are all green.

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[komer3]

good idea. We might need to bump the reserve IP limit again

[AshleyDumaine]

I don't think this actually had the intended behavior but yeah we should look into excluding these from e2e by default until the flaking is fixed